I wrote recently about the power of connection. In an ironic twist, today my internet connection went on strike – predictably at a supremely inconvenient moment. Vodafone, naturally decided to play dead too, rendering mobile useless.
This created a farcical ‘signal quest’ as I ran like an addict from café to café, “do you have wi-fi, do you have wi-fi?” Finally, somewhere did. Message sent. Mission accomplished. Celebratory cappuccino consumed!
But still I found myself mentally exhausted.
As a solopreneur, the load can be heavy. I returned to my office and spoke to the Head of IT. That would be me! I’m also head of Finance, Marketing, Strategy, Sales, Delivery, Research, Operations, Fleet, Stationery and Pets. That’s a lot for one person and a small team.
Overwhelm effects most of us. Increasingly, I find my executive mentoring clients want help to balance their professional and private lives. They find themselves trapped in a world of busyness. At work they can become stressed and unproductive. They stay back late to catch up. Once home, tired and distracted, they’re not really present.
Relationships suffer, stress increases and the cycle is reinforced. Fallout in terms of marriage breakdown, job loss, mental health issues and addictions are all increasing.
I don’t have a flip solution to this. I do believe many of us have got things out of whack.
The drivers are many. We want to contribute, to succeed, to provide. We love to learn and grow, to create teams, projects, products and businesses that we can be proud of.
Less attractively, ambition, fear, ego and greed can all contribute.
What we can do is to pause and reflect. Some questions I find helpful are:
Am I happy?
Am I living the life I want?
Am I spending time with the people who matter to me?
What does success look like for me and am I achieving it?
Am I making the difference I was born to make?
What can I stop doing to create more time?
I don’t believe that any of this means we have to give up our ambitions or our big jobs. But we do need to think carefully about who and what’s really important and allocate our time, care and attention accordingly.
When we follow our hearts, the answers are pretty clear. We just need to get out of our own way to make sure we are not winning in one area only to find we’ve lost where it really counts.