I’m a little tired. You probably are too. As we enter the stadium for the last lap, having run our personal marathon since January, the finishing line approaches. What kind of shape are you in? Are you coming home strong in front or a roaring crowd, or more limping across the line, unnoticed?
You learn something new every day. I recently met with female leaders in two Australian banks who are very interested in my upcoming Building Your Influence Webinar and my book, ‘Time To Shine’. Intrigued, I asked them if there was a specific reason the thinking resonated. Both thought that women in particular are looking for help in standing out. The language of ‘Your Time To Shine’ is spot on.
I’m currently pulling together the content for my BUILDING YOUR INFLUENCE FREE webinar. With only 45 minutes to cover a ton of material, the challenge is not what to put in, but what to leave out. That’s a wonderfully clarifying experience. It has reminded me that building our Influence is about so much more than thinking, creating, communicating and plucking up the courage to put ourselves out there.
Most of us have past failures. I am a failed pilot. I was in the Royal Navy training to fly helicopters. Two years in, they decided I didn’t have the right stuff, so I hoisted anchor. Whilst not destined to become the next ‘Maverick’, I did learn a lot from my aircrew training.
My wife, Nicki and I spent a decade moving home every year. From North London to South London (ne’er the twain!). From the UK to Hungary. Four more times within Budapest. Across the world to Sydney. Bondi (a DO NOT PASS GO visa imperative for incoming ‘Poms’), Eastern Suburbs, Northern Beaches (twice). Finally we were done!
Not so long ago, futurists were telling us that we’d all need to find new ways to fill the hours of extra leisure time created by labour-saving technologies. Like flying cars, robot maids and jet packs, these starry-eyed predictions now seem laughably wide off the mark. Study after study tells us that we’ve never been busier.
It’s funny how mildly disturbing things often appear to be comfortably in the future. Stuff you know you need to do, but that is going to require work, discomfort and courage. Then one day, that future is the present. Shit!
Part of the Time To Shine conversation is that we need to become intentional about building our influence. There’s an urgency about this. I wrote recently about the twin forces of kairos time and liminality that you may be feeling – the sense that it’s time for you to make your move.
Considering how much we are ruled by time, it’s surprising how little we think about it. Calendars, alarms, alerts and even watches (I know, ‘old school!’) – all beat to the tick, tick, tick that rules our every waking moment.
For seven years I’ve been running my consultancy business. For half of that time, I was working out which way was up. Unlearning 25 years of corporate memory muscle hurts! At the same time I was wrestling with what it takes to create the work/home life that we all dream of. Now that I am safely on the other side of the my personal ‘Hero’s Journey’, I can say that it has unquestionably been the hardest, yet most rewarding period of my career.
Have you noticed how successful people have a knack for making their life look less bumpy than yours? They glide across everyday challenges, unfazed by the dramas that conspire to frustrate your progress. If your dream is to make a good living doing your own thing, this lightness of touch can seem both attractive and unattainable.